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Ephesians 5: 22-28

²² Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. ²³ For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. ²⁴ Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

 ²⁵ Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her ²⁶ to make her holy, cleansing^[b] her by the washing with water through the word, ²⁷ and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. ²⁸ In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.

There is not a single biblical command for a wife to serve her husband (that I could easily find with google and ten minutes.). But guess what? Guys, we are to serve our wives. Now, you may ask, “How are we to serve our wives?” Well, get ready cause the answer is a doozy.

The model we’re given for marriage is one of Christ and the Church, with the man in Christ’s place and the woman in the place of the church. Guys, if you aren’t terrified right now you aren’t thinking. Tell me now, what did Jesus get out of this deal? Let’s see… He gave up His rightfully deserved glory to go live with a poverty stricken family. He was considered a bastard because his mother appeared to have cheated on her husband. He put up with all the crap that goes on through all of childhood and adolescence. (you ever wonder why Jesus didn’t skip the teenage years? Or the diaper years? Because He loves you that’s why.) He spent His life trying to help and teach those around Him, and the people He attracted followed Him for the food and the healing, not for Him or His teaching. His most loyal followers and friends betrayed and deserted Him when He needed them most. His best friend publicly denied knowing Him within earshot. He was beaten repeatedly, flogged, and murdered. And worst of all, (cause it’s the only part He complained about) God turned His back on Him because He had been dressed in our sin. And He did it all, knowingly and willingly (though, in one of the most interesting parts of Christianity, not bravely or stoically.).

Guys, if you want to get married that is what you are called to. You are called to lead and serve your wife. You are called to give up everything for her. You are called to freaking sanctify her. To make her holy. To be able to present her, “without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.”

If that doesn’t terrify you, you aren’t thinking.

You are called to love and serve her. She’s just called to respect you and submit to you. The best thing you can do is to make it as easy as possible and be respectable.